Romance Belles..

Sometimes we want to get together with someone for reasons of financial security instead of love. When women like a man for this reason it’s called a sugar daddy or gold digger. For men the phrase is about seeking a sugar momma. The daddy part often means it’s an older man and someone in a protective role. While security feels good, it is not the same as love. Security is not the reason to form a committment with someone for life.

Are you dating to be spoiled and pampered by someone? Are material acquisitions, fine dining and luxurious living the main motives you have? If so, what is the reason behind this? Do you dislike work or lack the confidence to get a good paying job? Are you someone who likes a free ride? Remember there is a price to pay for a situation like this. The sugar momma or daddy may expect romantic favors,will want you to be their “trophy” or assume you won’t be able to be your own person. Thought the enticement of gifts can be nice, there is also a cost. Continue Reading »

Have you thought about asking someone out who has been a very good friend for a few years or longer? This can bring up anxiety for both parties because if one person prefers the bond to remain as a friendship then things can become awkward once the idea of romance is introduced.

If you’ve had a crush on the person for a while, it will probably feel good to voice your true feelings. Be prepared for the possibility that the feelings may not be mutual. Still, regardless of the outcome, it will be a relief to express your heart if every time you are with your friend you feel the tension inside you. It can reach a point where you want to see if it things can progress and develop into a romantic situation. Continue Reading »

Do you dread the family reunions, visiting your parents or talking to friends due to that stinging question, “Why are you still single”? Is it hard to receive wedding invitations or hear about successful relationships due to envy?

One of the Seinfeld episodes involved a humorous scene between Elaine and a Rabbi where Elaine discussed her strong jealousy over George’s engagement. The Rabbi asked her, “Doesn’t it give you any joy to see your friend enter into this holiest of unions?” Elaine replied, “No , no it doesn’t. No joy, no joy whatsoever.” Continue Reading »

You don’t need a lot of money to have a enjoyable time with a date. Here are a few ideas to implement that have a cozy and special quality for anyone on a budget:

1) A cup of tea, coffee or chai at the local starbucks, barnes and nobles or borders bookstore is a nice place to go. On weekend nights, some of the bookstores even have free live entertainment.

2) Pack a small picnic basket and put in some crackers, cheese and fresh fruit. You can go to a nice park or duck pond and sit watching people while sitting on a blanket. This is something that is enjoyable and very relaxing. Continue Reading »

Do you skim a number of online profiles because they don’t seem gripping? Take the time to put some detail into your own online profile. Speaking with several friends who are single, I’ve found that they like to know what books someone likes, find out the types of movies people enjoy, hear about their spiritual preferences plus see someone’s recreational likes to learn more about the person. This can help your profile to stand out since many people will skip those sections or put in only a word or two due to rushing.

When you name your username for your profile you can use a variation of your own name or something that illustrates your interests such as kayaklover or jazziscool etc. Most people love sunsets, bicycling, nature and eating out so if you do mention this you should expand on these and mention additional interests in order to differentiate yourself. Continue Reading »

Initially there may have been some trepidation, but after a few e-mails you find that you feel enough of a connection to meet with someone from an online dating site. It is good to use caution and not give out a home phone number to a stranger. Meeting in a public place is also advised. This can be a bookstore, coffee shop, restaurant , beach or park. Setting up a short meeting is the best way to see what you have in common, if there is any chemistry and to get your feet wet.

If you don’t feel an initial attraction when you sit down, it’s still a good idea to give the person a chance and let the conversation unfold. Many celebrities even say that there wasn’t chemistry in their first meeting with a partner, but it grew in time. Continue Reading »

When you are out with a date, you are usually trying to see if the person is a good match for you. How do you decide this? Do you find that you look for someone with different and complimentary qualities or seek someone that shares your same point of view or values? Be open minded as this can help you see the mystery in the person.

Dropping our expectations can help to let the person in front of you actually appear. We often draw conclusions about someone too soon. For instance, a woman may have a designer’s handbag. This doesn’t mean her whole life revolves around fashion, but you may that judgement. Continue Reading »

It hurts if you felt a connection with your date but you didn’t get a call back from him or her. It is easy to take this as a rejection and feel a bit down and discouraged. Our confidence is hit hard and feelings of insecurity surface. What is painful is partly the thought that the feelings were the same towards you.

It is important to review your own good qualities and not take the person’s disappearance as a statement about you. People have different tastes, attractions and goals. Some people consistently look for a certain archetypal dream person and match everyone they meet to their inner image. Spend time with friends, rebuild your ego and get back into the game. Don’t judge your own self based on someone’s projections or personal preferences. Continue Reading »

So you’ve just joined an online dating community. Do not be discouraged when your prospect dates have not yet responded to your queries.

Women members of online dating portals receive an average of fifty to 200 queries from other members of the opposite sex. This means she’s just taking time going through all the queries she had received. You need to be a bit more patient.

Have a proactive approach when it comes to online dating. Focusing on one woman would reduce your chances of landing a response. Continue Reading »